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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sentiments too - your husband is a saint!!  But I would say you need to watch how far you push him or your own marriage will be over.

You are enabling your mom and not taking care of the basic issues presenting themselves about her health and well-being.  She needs to be evaluated whether she likes it or not.  If you do not have appropriate space for her then she needs to be in her own place or in an assisted living place where she can get care.

What are you doing about her insurance, medical care, taxes, etc.  I'm assuming all are tied in with her forgotten husband.  A year is a long time to be stringing along! [/quote]

All good questions/suggestions and yes, DH is amazing. I don't take that for granted at all and I tell him all the time and try to show it in many ways.

Insurance, I got her on Obamacare and I haven't figured out dental yet since that isn't covered. I subscribed her to AARP so that she could get discounted dental, but I still have to look into it since she seems to be on Mars with that. Medical care - I got her in with DH's physician's female partner but she is a bit of a dud - as in, she has not followed up on any of my concerns and I need to find a new one in the midst of my kids' and my own appointments. She has a good ENT (ours) and a good OB (ours). I juice and have been juicing for her and she has been eating a good diet. Taxes - She has a CPA back in her prior state of residence and I have no idea if he is any good. She had some tax issues but is working through them, apparently.

Forgotten husband? Oh no - they talk/text on a regular basis. He still does not work (didn't while they were together) and got a boat load of money (ok it was only 50k but STILL) and promised to give her some but bought an RV instead. Also did not pay his back child support with it which I know through my mom. And bc the question of why I won't just send her back to him will inevitably come up, I must mention that in a heated email debate with him a couple of years ago, he revealed that my mom is a frustrating person to live with (true) and that as revenge he hid her prescription blood pressure medication. But, alas, he is still in the picture and she knows how we feel about him. She has declared that he will always be in her life, though. She also still pays his phone bill, auto insurance and slides him money here and there (I don't have proof of this, but I am pretty sure).[/quote]

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