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[quote=Anonymous]I never stole, so perhaps our issues differ, but I was a compulsive liar growing up.  I can't remember the first lie I told but I remember telling serious lies starting young - 5 or so.  It is a lifelong struggle.

What helped me was years of therapy and learning to just immediately admit it when I lied - a LOT of training and self esteem work and positive reinforcement from my mother helped retrain me.  We had an absolutely fantastic therapist that my mother paid through the roof for, but it was worth eveyr penny I think.  I am still thankful for him to this day. My lies stemmed from a host of issues, both nature and nurture, and he was instrumental in helping me work through them.

In terms of behavior changes, it took me a LONG time to get here, but this is what eventually really helped me (this is AFTER lots of helpful therapy that was the foundation of this working).  If I lied, I could just immediately say "actually that's not true" or "oops, I mean" or "I meant to say" and then tell the truth and I got off scott free. My teachers, parents, and friends all knew about it and were kind and supportive with me as I worked through it.

It took YEARS.  Still to this day, if I'm feeling nervous or worried I won't be accepted, or just want to avoid confrontation, I will sometimes lie to tell the person what they want to hear.  Almost always, I say "I mean..." and then tell the truth.

So I really heavily recommend getting him to an excellent therapist immediately and plan on it taking a while.[/quote]

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