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[quote=Anonymous]Honestly, if you're going to follow up your communications with your brother with a "did you get my message? why didn't you respond?" then that in and of itself is enough to make him want to avoid you. There may be more to the story, but that alone is burdensome enough that a normal person who's just going about his life isn't going to want to engage with you. If you're sending communications and think of him as obliged to respond in a certain way within a certain time frame, then that's kind of like giving a gift and getting upset that the thank you card didn't come fast enough - you're giving the gift for the wrong reasons & you're reaching out for the wrong reasons. You should reach out because you want him to know how you're doing and you want to know how he's doing. If you just want to lay a guilt trip on him, he's justified not to respond. My aunts have ruined their relationship with their brothers by behaving this way - always asking for more time and then when the brother does show up, spending that time complaining that they don't see him enough. Why should they make an effort if that's the reception they get? [/quote]

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