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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The bit about annoyance when talk to him to express indecision might have a gender component to it. I think women talk to process feelings in a way that men often do not and often don't understand. [/quote]

Probably.  DW called me last night because she was stuck in a storm and I have no idea what she was looking for from me.  I'm not there, I can't evaluate whether she should get a hotel room or drive through the storm to come home.  So we just sorta sit there on the phone and the inertia is like nails on a chalkboard.  I told her if she doesn't feel safe driving then by all means get a hotel.  Or she could stop and get some food to kill time while the weather clears up.[/quote]

Geez. I call my DH with crap like this all of the time. He just helps me make a decision. I guess I can see why it is annoying, but I don't see why it has to be.[/quote]

I think it depends on the dynamic and the tone. If the husband feels the responsibility for the decision is on him, then it isn't fair. She is the one who ultimately needs to make the decision and as long as she takes full responsibility for her decisions (in this case drive or stay put) then she may just be looking for input without any shifting of responsibility. On the other hand if she wants him to make the decision or later complains about driving in the storm or wasting time staying put based on his input, then that isn't fair. Men generally are more solution focused and think you are asking them a question because you want an answer and a solution from them. They are less likely to just chatter about all the details without really wanting anything other than a listening ear. they want to know what you want from them when you start asking things.  [/quote]

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