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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met a great guy. We have never been together when he is not drinking alcohol, except once, and his behavior was exactly the same as when he is drinking. I enjoy a glass or two of wine and one or two cocktails. I a female and around 120 pounds. Two drinks are my limit, with food, or I am not okay to drive. However, new guy is over 6 feet tall and over 200 pounds, easily. He is not fat, just a really big guy. Can he just handle his liquor better than I think he can? [/quote]
It's not really a matter of handling his liquor, so much as it is a matter of his relationship to alcohol.

I dated a guy once who denied he had any drinking problem, and we would often do activities where there was no drinking involved whatsoever-- hiking, movies, etc. It's not like he was constantly drinking.

But some of the things I noticed about him and his "relationship" with alcohol were troubling:

--He planned his weekends with an eye to when he would have a chance to get "wasted," as he called it
--He told me that he couldn't have just one glass of wine-- he would want the whole bottle
--After heavy drinking, he would be miserable the next day with a hangover, but would still do it again the following weekend
--He was on a first name basis with the clerks at the liquor store
--His adult children were heavy social drinkers and a fun family activity was for everyone to drink a lot together
--Every single time we went out to a restaurant, he had to have at least 2 glasses of wine
--He would get upset with me if I didn't want to get drunk on the weekend with him
--He would stop drinking entirely for a month at a time so he could lose weight, and then he'd start again.

I'm posting all that as examples of someone who seemed to have a whole "relationship" with alcohol. A large part of his life revolved around it. He didn't drink every day, but there was clearly some dysfunction there. If your new guy seems to have a relationship with alcohol, almost as if it's another person in his life, that is a big red flag. It's not about tolerance.[/quote]

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