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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't change your mind after 10 years? Jeez. Word to potential SAHMs--apparently if you decide to stay home when your kids are little, you are giving up your right to renegotiate at any point in the future. [/quote]

No, you can't just change your mind after 10 years and expect him (or anyone) to just deal with it. That's the choices we make. Of COURSE you can change your mind. But you need to come up with something better to support your decision and you need to be realistic that you can't just expect your husband to all of a sudden change the course of his life and still be happily married.

Yes, word to SAHMs: are you are giving things up if you choose to stay home. 10 years of work experience being the most obvious. But, additionally, you build a marraige around a certain set of agreed-upon parameters. Your husband should be in it with you, and he should be helping you make a decision that will make you happy. But that doesn't include "I *sacrificed* my career for our children!" and then blaming your husband over a "mutual decision". That's not going to get you anywhere. That argument just doesn't work. Now you need to come to a mutual agreement with your husband AGAIN. Marraige is like a contract. Hopefully you are in a partnership and you are able to re-negotiate. Sorry if that's not romantic. [/quote]

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