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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The women's group at my church raved about this article and maybe it will bring you comfort:
http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him

That said... There are worse things for kids than a divorce. A mother who feels victimized and helpless because her husband wants out is not going to be able to help her children see their self-worth is not based on being loved.[/quote]

The author of the article followed up today: http://theweek.com/article/index/262661/i-didnt-save-my-marriage-i-saved-myself#axzz33m4PyN9A

They did end up divorcing, but as she notes, the point of her actions were not just about the marriage: "I have moved on from that time in my life, and while the end of the essay and the book leave my marriage in a place of healing, that marriage needed to end, and it did. Again, it was never about staying together. It was about taking care of yourself in a time when society says that you should suffer greatly, fight, splay yourself supplicant. I refused to do that. I felt that it was his crisis, and my job was to focus on what I could control and let go of the rest, which included the outcome of my marriage. I gave myself a stopping point. And eventually we stopped. And now we are divorced. Amicably. We are on to new chapters. All the players are thriving. And I've been given the opportunity to re-live the messages in my book/essay from a new angle. They still apply and they are still lifelines. And I can say that I know, without a doubt, that happiness is within."[/quote]

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