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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with some/much of this for kids in elementary school/middle school, but by 14 and high school, the approach some posters seem to want to take will take your kids out of the mainstream of how kids and for that matter adults communicate in the current tech-driven world, so unless you are home schooling and living in a rural setting with much more control over what your kids are up to all day (and night), you really have to build trust and communication, look for warning signs, but if all is going well with school, home behavior and you believe your kid is in a good peer group, and you make the effort to be connected to the parents of those peers and connected to teachers/school, then trying to prevent all private internet access and/or the spying being contemplated is likely to backfire. In our experience with two recent DDs making it through high school in one piece, the second one this year, we saw the kids whose parents went crazy with restrictions being the ones that were most devious and successful at being devious in terms of setting up Facebook or Twitter accounts with pseudonyms, using their friends laptops and phones for everything (and pretending to be who they were not on line, social media, not good), and using media inappropriately at school, interfering with their learning to some extent.  Also, internet access by high school is absolutely required for all sorts of classwork/research, and learning control and being able to talk about disturbing things they come across on line with you is important, rather than being afraid to admit they went on at all.

If staying up late on line and/or worrying about what they are doing with laptop in their room other than working is an issue, turn off your home WiFi at night between say midnight and 7am, or have the phones go somewhere other than their rooms at night (i.e. in your room)[/quote]

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