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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dad had a complete separate family. I learned in 3rd grade. It did taint how I looked at him, but the real loser in my eyes is my mom who flipped out and didn't try to save her marriage. As a result, my full sibling and I grew up in poverty while the halfs got a pretty cushy upbringing AND our dad. My mom also has spent the last three decades trashing my dad and his mistress.[/quote]

Um, you do realize that your Dad is the a-hole here, right.  Please tell me you haven't blamed/vilified your mother for this.  [/quote]

My dad has apologized to us again and again. My mother takes no responsibility for her role in how things ended up. To this day, my mother ruins nearly every family occasion by trying to pick a fight with my dad. I glad that at least he got some peace from her when he left. Wish he'd taken us, too. Growing up in the ghetto is hard. Growing up in the ghetto with a depressed, bitter mother is so much worse. [/quote]

Blame your dad for having the affair AND not giving you enough money so you didn't have the live in the ghetto.  How can a woman save her marriage when he husband has left her for another woman?[/quote]

Although there are two sides to every story, there's a lot of truth here, OP.  [/quote]

My story isn't nearly as ugly as the original poster, but I can see a lot of truth in what she said.  My mom is still bitter and twisted about many things in how her marriage to my dad ended.  Yes, he behaved terribly, but after 25 years, at least some of this bitterness is on her.

And ruining family occasions... btdt.  All that BS landed me in therapy.  [/quote]

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