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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about a poor parent? New poster here. but i am in a similar situation with my mother. She is nutso crazy with money, and cannot manage it to save her life. She told me she has $1.50 in her bank account and has managed to "reschedule" most major bills this month, including her mortgage, electric, etc, but is going on a $400 trip next weekend, paid for a while back. While I don't begrudge her some pleasure, it is clear she would be better to put that money towards her various bills. I am thinking of sending her a small amount of money towards a particular bill, but wondering if I am opening a can of worms. We do not have a lot of money, and work around the clock. We have three small children, and I know the money would be better spent on them. Afterall, she has had her chances, and royally screwed everything up multiple times. For the record, we are not close, she was a terrible parent, struggles with mental illness, and is quite vicious with me. She doesn't spend time with us and does not know her grandchildren. But I still feel guilty. My greatest fear is that if I help her out once it opens the door to her expecting that in the future. What to do...? Any advice? [/quote]

op here and I would like to share experiences

1. Your motivation will always be questioned, and your generosity will likely not be appreciated

2. Offer to pay her bills directly from you instead of giving her cash.

3. Once you pay her bills, you are expected to continue to do so unless you make it absolutely clear it's a one-time thing.

It is good that you are not close to your mom. In my case my relatives and I have been close and it's hard to write them off.

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