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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is quite unusual OP to be nearing 30 and to not have had a boyfriend.

It's hard for me to determine the reason even though your post was pretty detailed.

Do you have a family member or good friend who can give you a "no-holds barred" tell it like it is completely objective opinion on why this is so? Let this person know that you need the truth and that no matter what they tell you, you will take it like a woman, you will not hold anything they say against them and you must stick to your word.

Because there is something going on with you and only someone in your immediate life, none of us anonymous respondents can know for sure, will be able to see it.

Good luck.

P.S. If you do not have anyone in your immediate life to assist you, then I suggest you consider seeing a counselor and talking to him/her and see if there are certain issues you may have that need to be dealt with first.[/quote]

THIS. I can't believe nobody has stated the obvious before. If OP keeps running into the type of issue over and over, it's her. Which is actually a good thing, because she can change.

I dated a guy like this in my mid 20s. I really liked him at first, and it was obvious he liked me too. A bit too obvious, after awhile. He was so nice and helpful, which was endearing, but I knew that committing to a relationship might as well mean committing to marry him. And there were red flags there that I couldn't shake. He did aLOT for me, but there was  this subtle air of desperation about him. I also wondered when he fell so hard so fast if there were others before me that he'd had similar feelings for. Finally, he ends up initiating "the talk" in the car one night and saying he has something to tell me, but he's afraid that once he tells me, I'll start to change. Why did he do that??? He said he was really into me and only wanted me, but every time he'd told a woman this before, she ran. I didn't run right away, because who wants to seem callous, but that discussion put him out of the running for a serious relationship. Frankly, your emotional outburst in the bathroom is scary for the other person. You come across as needy, overly emotional (you can't control your emotions enough to avoid crying around him?), and insecure. Nobody wants to be responsible for your happiness or improving your self-confidence. Fake it until you make it and cry at home or with a good gf over stuff like this. He also probably realizes that this is a chronic problem for you, which is unattractive, because it says that you are used to being rejected. People want to feel like they are committing to someone who is a prize vs someone who is on a perpetual journey for acceptance and love. Also, if you are so anxious for a guy to commit to you, then you have take the fun away and now there's no need to rush to get you off of the market. He already "has" you and can therefore keep his options open for awhile. I believe that you are probably saying or doing something that comes across as someone who might commit to any guy willing to have you.

Age has very little to do with it. Most women have BFs in their 20s and many get married. [/quote]

Okay, PP here and you have convinced me.
I think you're on the money.[/quote]

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