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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Communications issues!!  So many issues here. First of all, it's NOT being bitchy to put your laptop where you want it. You should have just said, "let's put it under the seat," and that would have been the end of that. Not sure why you thought you had to be bitchy to accomplish that -- is it originating from you, or from him (like he won't back down unless you are bitch about it), or a combination of the two? It's your belonging, you get to decide where it goes.

Second of all, and this one is all on you, why do you care about forcing an admission from him that he's to blame? Maybe he's right, maybe he's wrong, but "forcing an admission" doesn't get you anywhere. Instead you have to address the real thing here - whatever dynamic you guys have that made it so you couldn't just simply express your valid preference to put your own belonging where you wanted it to go.

This isn't about what happened to the laptop at all. The question is why you guys communicate so poorly. [/quote]

I suppose that it's because we both think the other is some degree of an idiot because of inflated self-importance.  This and a major marital hiccup that will take time to recover from.  But, everyone has hiccups.  And, while we've gone through some degree of counseling, we have a ways to go.

I didn't say "force an admission."  PP, you have to be careful to use quotations in this context when actually quoting people.  [/quote]

Ha ha, like the way you switch the focus to how I quoted you instead of the actual truth - which is that you are stuck on getting an admission of fault from him. Why are you fixated on being right instead getting what you actually want, which is to decide like and adult where your things go? You are clearly locked in a dynamic with your DH that is about fighting and proving the other is a wrong person, instead of problem solving and getting along. Until you sort this out it will be one stupid fight after another - laptop this time, next time will be something else meaningless to manifest your drama.[/quote]

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