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[quote=Anonymous]I was lucky in college and had choices about who I dated.  I went to a school with a lot of frats, so as an example: I went with a football guy to his frat's formal one year; went with a guy from a ridiculously rich family to his super WASP-y frat's formal; I was invited by various guys to all the parties at the "hipster cool party" frat over the years; and I spent more time than ever at the punk-y, college rock-y frat (yes, even they had a frat).

And of all those types, over and over I wanted the smart, cute, a little shy guy who either played in a band (even if it was a bad band), or was a visual artist, or who played more of the slacker sports, like ultimate frisbee.  Even though I went on dates with jocks and preps etc (to speak to the "power" point another PP made), what was powerful to me was artistic talent, HUMILITY (the cocky guys who were musicians or artists never got anywhere with me, so never dated a lead singer LOL!), and smarts.

Re: the OP's question, I just think "Chess nerd" or "Jock" is way too limiting in terms of what high school and college girls/women can choose from.  There's also the "outcast/alienated" guy, the bad boy who's always in trouble (that has it's own power) but is neither a jock or a chess nerd; the guy with a car (LOL!), etc.

And in every category of guy, there can be cocky obnoxious self-centered jerks (even among the chess nerds!), as well as the nicer, quieter guys, or the "Let's parrrrrtay!" guys... every category each has all sorts of personalities.  For some of us, the personality type is more important than anything.  I married a fire fighter!  And he's the sexiest man anywhere, but very different from the musician/bad boy types I was drawn to (although he's a huge music fan and grew up with plenty of bad boys so he's got that edge).  But he's also very humble and kind and smart and a great dad.  So that is what's "powerful" to me.[/quote]

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