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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I trust my dad with my kid.  What I don't understand is how a former parent of young children could possibly do this w/o realizing that it's necessary to give the parent a head's up.  He did not understand at all why I was upset and thought I blew things out of proportion.[/quote]

HA!!! I have found out that once people get older they have a magic filter that erases ANY memory of having a young child.

I had my MIL _leave my 7 year old daughter_ at the playground by the local school (which is not her school, and it was" after hours" kids at the playground) while she went inside the school searching for a bathroom. This took probably 20 minutes, and in the meantime the kids at the playground ALL WENT BACK INSIDE THE SCHOOL and my daughter was panicked at being abandoned. THankfully one of the after hours professionals escorted my daughter inside the building and on the way her grandmother was located.

DD was very upset by this. She knows I would never abandon her like that. She did not even hear her grandmother tell her she was leaving- she was probably playing and MIL did not even teake a moment to pull her aside, look her in the eye and tell her. DH was _Furious_.  He asked her why she thought it was ok to leave DD with strangers. MIL assumed my dauhgter knew kids there at the playground, and that somehow this meant it was ok to leave her there alone. She could not grasp that she should have told and ADULT that she was leaving, and she then might find out that those adults present were NOT obligated to watch her granddaighter while she went to the bathroom, or that they were about to go back into the building and her granddaughter would not be able to go in with them.

THe schools playground is allowed to be used by anyone in the community, but somehow MIL could not grasp that there is NO SOCIAL CONTRACT that other adults will watch your kids. She alsosaid "its probably ok most of the time" to leave kids alone at a plaayground.

I should add that we had an incident with a masturbating pedophile at the Capital VIew Homeswood park playground in Kensington just a stones throw away a few years ago. This is something she KNEW about and yet acted like WE were off base for thinking its ok to walk away from a kid at a playground.

Then just recently (about a year after the previous playground incident) she took my daughter (along with my FIL) to the park playground. And at one point she wanted to leave, my daughter didnt want to go yet, and she threatened my daughter that she would leave her there. This upset my daughter- I had just told her the whole abandonment thing would not happen again. And this time it was used as a threat. MIL then told me that DD could have just returned home by herself.

Its like they just do not get that a parent would want to know where their child is at all times. They think that is somehow weird and overreacting.[/quote]

Honestly you shouldn't let your MIL take your DD to the playground anymore.  It's not fair to your DD to be threatened like that. [/quote]

Oh we wont. It was a LONG time after the first incident and DH had come down on her hard enough we thought it would be clear. Our inlaws lavish all their help on DH;s younger sister, so really DD has little contact with them anyway. This last incident proved that we sbould keep it that way.[/quote]

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