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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is this "date night" of which you speak?

In all seriousness, I am very sad about the fact that DH cannot be bothered to plan a night out for the two of us. My birthday has now become a family outing.

For our anniversary, I secured the sitter and reservations. DH didn't even take the time to get a card and sign it. It is the thought that counts. I would like there to be some indication that spending time with me is important to him. One way to do that is to arrange time together without kids or other couples.

It is somewhat reassuring to read that my DH isn't the only thoughtless a$$.[/quote]

You should tell him that you want to spend time with him alone. Be SPECIFIC. According to my DH, men are clueless and need things spelled out for them. They're not idiots, they just don't understand subtle hints. Once I accepted this as a truth in life, I don't waste time with subtly. I am very direct with DH, including saying, I want sex tonight. Or "this anniversary we will celebrate without the kids." I have to make plans for the sitter, but DH arranges vacations.[/quote]

Yes, but this is a double edged sword.  My DH tells me the same thing, and then when I ask him to do what I want him to do (whatever it is) I get the passive-aggressive sighs/eye rolls/whatever.  And when I call him on that I get the fake innocence bullshit.  "What?  What did I do?"  It drives me insane.  If, on top of having to spell out for you that the kitchen is a disaster and there's laundry to be folded and garbage to go out and the kid needs a bath and the dog needs her medicine and blah blah blah (as if you can't SEE, for Chrissakes), I have to fucking TELL you that romance needs to continue to be a part of the relationship, just forget it.[/quote]

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