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[quote=Anonymous]My brother is 60 and he and his wife have been living in a cheap motel for almost one year.  Over the past 10 months I have given/spent/paid rent to to the tune of just under $6,000.  I paid a month's rent at the motel because they both promised to get jobs within two weeks.  That was two months ago.  The wife got a job with a cleaning service and lasted two days..."came home crying every night because the business owner is a 'nut job.'"  So, she quit the job.  My brother never got a job.  Finally, I said "no more!"  I have my own life to take care of and after all the money they are in the same situation they were when I first started helping them.  Last weekend they were kicked out of the motel for non-payment of rent and they moved in with the wife's mother, who has a small apartment.  They could have done that at the beginning of this saga and I'd still have my $6k.  I was a fool and allowed myself to be manipulated by them...I was a sucker because I care about them.  But, no more.  I refuse to allow them to use me anymore.  It is not a money issue with them...it is a behavioral issue.  Bad choices...there have been times in their lives when they had money and opportunities, but bad choices took care of that.  My advise to all...if the person is capable of obtaining employment, and refuses to do so...let them live with the consequences of their own actions...if they become homeless...so be it.  My brother and his wife are not handicapped or mentally ill..they are bright, likeable people who are just too lazy to work.  They want someone, anyone, to take care of them.  So, now they have a new person to manipulate.[/quote]

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