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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I wish my parents were as helpful as you all were when I was applying to undergrad back in '10. Neither of my parents went to college so I had absolutely no help in applying (even my counselor was of little help) but I ended up getting into 7 of the 8 schools I applied to. I couldn't imagine not taking charge. I know that you are all afraid of your kids not getting into good schools but perhaps in the future you should just let them figure it out on their own. [/quote]

Very catty judgement to make on family dynamics that you are not privy to at all. Just because my kid is a senior doesn't mean that she still didn't need parenting, encouragement, and an extra kick in the pants to apply to colleges while maintaining her grades, her senior activities, and other issues that I won't divulge here. She still had to fill out the applications, write the essays, and attend alumni interviews. My role as a parent was to take her on college tours to get her interested, help her research the colleges that we thought would be a good fit both academically and financially, and not let her slack off.

Sorry that your parents showed absolutely no interest in your college academic career, but I don't think that's something that is right or appropriate for all families. We're paying for her education and we are invested in her, and it paid off in the way of acceptances and a good learning environment for the next four years of her life. [/quote]

No need to be nasty. I'm the one with the lazy son and I'm sure I had to be more involved in the process than anyone else due to his laziness. However, I did not read PP's post as an indictment or judgment on my/our parenting.

He was simply making a point, and he was correct in his point. I should NOT have been as involved in the process as I was. No need to insult his family and pass judgment on his parents' interest in his academic career as I'm sure that like us, they wanted the best for him as well. They simply TRUSTED him to be able to handle the process. And he was. My kid on the other hand....At 18 I don't trust him to feed his own damn dog during the day. It is what it is.[/quote]

Thank you. This is the poster of that original message. My intent was not to be catty. And let me just say to the rude person who replied to my post...how dare you think that my parents had no interest in my college academic career. Could you not read? The highest level of education they got was high school and it wasn't even in this country so it wasn't a matter of not wanting to help, it was a matter of not knowing at all how to help, you jerk. But whatever, you can be as rude as you want. I successfully got through undergrad in 3.5 years with a 3.96 GPA so I would say I did pretty well for someone who had no idea what college was going to be like at all. [/quote]

That's great for you. Really. But it doesn't apply here and your situation has absolutely nothing to do with my kid and the college process TODAY. How dare YOU tell ME that I should have let her handle it on her own? How is that not equally judgmental that I somehow erred in taking an interest in my kid's college education that I'm going to pay upwards of 40k a year to fund?

I don't have a college education either, but that doesn't mean that I'm just going to leave my kid to figure out this process all on her own. What your parents did won't work for most families today. Period. [/quote]

You are one NASTY, UPTIGHT MISERABLE SHREW. It's no wonder your daughter has "issues that you (sic) won't divulge here". Trust me, judging by your behavior in this thread, I am certain the root of her problems is YOU.

For one, PP in no way insulted parents in our approach to the process. Two different posters responded with full understanding of what he was trying to say. YOU are the only one who got your insecure feathers ruffled. To try to insult HIS parents--who, from a rational person's perspective, obviously raised a child capable going it alone--was an unnecessarily low blow. In that, they're better than all of us in this thread.

Secondly, PP went through the process in '10--just 3 years ago. The process was just as competitive then. So what he went through is indeed relevant to TODAY.

Thirdly, I find it hard to believe that without a college degree you will be shelling out $40,000 per year for your child's education. Did you mean that as a FAMILY you guys would shell out that much? Well, guess what? That doesn't give you license to run your child's life. I can already tell you are--and will continue to be-- a controlling, overbearing parent who thinks that financial support means you have the right to control your child. I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR DAUGHTER!!!!!

PP was correct in saying that we should've allowed our children to figure it out on their own (with minimal guidance). For whatever reason, some of us did not. For you, it was because your daughter has a full schedule and ISSUES. For me, it's that my child is a spoiled lazy ass.

Stop being such a B.[/quote]

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