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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I wish my parents were as helpful as you all were when I was applying to undergrad back in '10. Neither of my parents went to college so I had absolutely no help in applying (even my counselor was of little help) but I ended up getting into 7 of the 8 schools I applied to. I couldn't imagine not taking charge. I know that you are all afraid of your kids not getting into good schools but perhaps in the future you should just let them figure it out on their own. [/quote]

Very catty judgement to make on family dynamics that you are not privy to at all. Just because my kid is a senior doesn't mean that she still didn't need parenting, encouragement, and an extra kick in the pants to apply to colleges while maintaining her grades, her senior activities, and other issues that I won't divulge here. She still had to fill out the applications, write the essays, and attend alumni interviews. My role as a parent was to take her on college tours to get her interested, help her research the colleges that we thought would be a good fit both academically and financially, and not let her slack off.

Sorry that your parents showed absolutely no interest in your college academic career, but I don't think that's something that is right or appropriate for all families. We're paying for her education and we are invested in her, and it paid off in the way of acceptances and a good learning environment for the next four years of her life. [/quote]

No need to be nasty. I'm the one with the lazy son and I'm sure I had to be more involved in the process than anyone else due to his laziness. However, I did not read PP's post as an indictment or judgment on my/our parenting.

He was simply making a point, and he was correct in his point. I should NOT have been as involved in the process as I was. No need to insult his family and pass judgment on his parents' interest in his academic career as I'm sure that like us, they wanted the best for him as well. They simply TRUSTED him to be able to handle the process. And he was. My kid on the other hand....At 18 I don't trust him to feed his own damn dog during the day. It is what it is.[/quote]

Well that's fine for you, but I think that it's unfair to say that parents shouldn't be involved in process at all, which is what the PP said. "Let them figure it out on their own."
 If that were truly the case, that the kid should be on their own like the pp, then parents who hire "college counselors" and coaches for the sole intent on getting their kids into top schools should be criticized as well. So should high school guidance counselors, for that matter. My kid is in public school, and her GO was shockingly, appallingly incompetent, and cared about nothing else except getting kids accepted into whatever state school would take them. I took on the role of guiding her and giving her adult supervision and insight that imo, most kids need when going through the long, tedious, and ultra competitive college admissions process.

PP probably should not have passed judgement on our parenting while implying that his parents did it correctly and we did not. The college environment has changed dramatically from even the time PP graduated four years ago, so it really doesn't apply to our situations. [/quote]

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