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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an only child, and my parents know that I'm never moving back to my hometown.  When it's down to one of them, there may be a move to a facility here, but that's still aways off.

I'd be clear with your parents that you're never moving back. That's just not your responsibility.  They'll know that if they want help, they'll need to hire it, and your sibling can decide how much he does or doesn't want to be involved.  You can talk with your brother about how to time travel so it's useful for everyone.  [/quote]

WOW!  MY GOD, I HOPE MY CHILDREN WILL TREAT ME OR AT LEAST SPEAK ABOUT ME IN MY OLD AGE A BIT MORE KINDLY THAN YOU DO TO YOUR PARENTS.  I DON'T EXPECT MY CHILDREN TO TAKE CARE OF ME, BUT I HOPE TO GOD THAT THEY WOULD WANT TO PLAY A ROLE IN MY CARE WHEN I AM TOO OLD TO CARE FOR MYSELF.

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If you want your children to help you, then you have to be willing to make some compromises.  If parents aren't willing to compromise, then they can hire their own help.

PP wasn't unkind.  The reality is that elderly parents are not entitled to ruin their children's and grandchildren's lives simply because they will not move to where their family is.  It's not fair to the rest of the family.   Dependents (ie. children and elderly parents) don't get to decide where the family will live. That's up to the breadwinners who are supporting the family.  If elderly parents can't take that, then they have to hire help or go to a care facility.

BTW, you might want to turn off your caps button.  [/quote]

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