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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here- thanks everyone for your feedback. My MIL and I just had an argument as I tried to explain to her where I was coming from. She didn't really want to hear it. So in the end, I simply told her that she and I are never going to discuss SIL again and that it's been a lot of back and forth and it's just too stressful for me as I have my own three kids and husband to worry about. Aside from the issue with my SIL my MIL is like one of those mothers where she's all about family sticking together, and she's from the school of I will do anything for my family. That's pretty much what she lectured me on, and although I feel bad, I'm not going to be guilted into doing something I don't want to. She kept asking me during the argument to give her reasons why I didn't like said SIL. This was a bit upsetting to me as I had no idea what she was trying to achieve. I refused and told her I dislike her for the same reasons you do. To which she responded" who told you I didn't like her" I was floored. I suppose All of those conversations I had with MIL were a dream.  She also told me she was a grown up and suggested I was a child. I'm 36 years old and have always been pretty mature. Again I was shocked. I thought my suggestions is why MIL chose to change her attitude toward SIL. However, from our conversation earlier it appears that her son jumped on her about her treatment of his wife (SIL) and she doesn't want her son to be mad at her. I suggested that she and SIL go out alone together, she would hear nothing of it. So all in all. I'm not sure a real conclusion was met. The main thing is that she knows where I stand, she knows I'll treat my SIL with respect and be friendly, but am not open to a scheduled monthly night out.  I'm not sure if this has affected my relationship with MIL.  It saddens me to think so. But I have been a people pleaser all my life and it felt good to not give a hoot this once. It's been a good lesson all together. During this argument MIL told me about myself and let me know how she feels about some areas of my personality that she considers flawed. Perhaps this has been a good lesson for me in " getting a life". I have invested the majority of my time into my husbands family as my extended family is not close and live in another Country. I won't  ever stress about BIL or SIL or MIL or any inlaw to the point that I'm so stressed that it causes me heart palpitations, and eczema breakouts. I can love them without getting pulled into the fray. This forum was a nice venue to vent, and to get feed back. Thanks[/quote]

This is classic. Sounds EXACTLY like my mother. (I already posted about this.) The missing link and why you are floored to learn that your MIL doesn't realize she always talks negatively about SIL is that she is trolling for your negative opinions; that is what sticks in her mind when she talks negatively about SIL -- what YOU say. No doubt she turns right around and shares it with BIL and SIL herself. Glad you didn't take the bait.[/quote]

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