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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my husband and I were in this situation this would be a decision that both of us would have to fully support in order to say yes.  Here is what I expect we would be wrestling in terms of factors:

- remaining time with child
- drain on family and spouse time
- financial drain, especially at a time when facing college costs for child
- fulfillment of a dream
- the example set by a parent when going back to school can be very powerful
- likelihood of the education paying off significantly (in emotional/financial/career/self-worth measures)
- level of want versus need involved in the desire to pursue the degree
- cost/benefit analysis for the family, marriage and other relationships that might be impacted by one person undertaking something like this.

To be honest, it would be a pretty tough sell in our house.  I would love to go back to graduate school (and I too feel a bit of the "something to prove" issue) but it would do significantly more harm that good to my marriage and my relationship with my kids.  So it would be a non-starter for us.  If my husband wanted to do it and I sensed on some level that it was as much out of personal vanity, or if I felt that it was a pipe dream pursuit in terms of entrepreneurial opportunities, then I'd be opposed.

I'm not saying that's what's going on w/ you and this program, but those would be among my concerns.[/quote]

This would be my thinking exactly.

OP, what is the financial plan for your child's college education?  Have you saved enough to get her through college without loans?

I could not spend $48K on a degree for myself at this point if I knew that my child was about to embark on college financed via loans.

RE the undergrad degree and the chip on your shoulder - that makes no sense to me.  You need to examine that carefully and consider what it says about you, that you think you need a brand-name degree at this point in your life to "prove something" (to whom?).  If the goal is to prove something to yourself - then IMO that is even worse, all about vanity and ego.[/quote]

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