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[quote=Anonymous]Congrats on accepting who you are and thinking about the details of your future.

Here are a few options:

Dad & Daddy 
*Downside: Daddy may be preferred when young but when older a son may not want to call his father Daddy and thus he will be calling you both Dad. Though I always called my grandfather, Grampy, even as an adult.

Daddy J & Daddy D (where J and D are the people's first names).
*Downside: Some letters may not work well such as Y, P, W.., and is rather long and may be harder to distinguish who he is calling and not possible if partners have same first name letter. If you meet someone who already has a child he probably calls him Dad and then most likely you will become Daddy (first letter) or potentially just your first name if the child is relatively old.

Father
*One many could be dad/daddy/papa/pa and the other Father but unless it is a very traditional formal family (which would be rare for a gay family), the kid will most likely not want to call his dad Father.

Dada/Daddy/Dad & Pa/Papa/Pops/Pop
*This seems like the best option long term. The only downside being Papa depending on your culture may be less typical or sound older. They may also call Papa (Pops) when a teenager which may come across as disrespectful to some.

Also some kids use a combination. Thus they call whoever they are with Daddy but if both dads are present at the same time they call them Daddy first initial, etc. Often whatever you decide the kid may have something else in mind.

I think Dad and Papa will be the least confusing and best long term and allows the kid to start with Da > DaDa > Daddy and finally Dad. And the other Pa > Papa > Pop/Pops > Papa. But ultimately a personal preference and up to the child in the long run.
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