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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=maril332]I'm on OP's side. Her friend does not have to act like she's the first person in the world to have issues in life. Ignoring good friends doesn't make it easier. [/quote]

I have to agree.  I have secondary infertility and missing out on my friends' new children is anathema to me.  I choose to think of it as an opportunity to flex my maternal side and grow the love around me, even if it isn't in the way I had imagined.  I understand the pain people go through, but it is hard for me to understand what is gained by isolating oneself and pushing away people who want to love and support you.  I have found that talking frankly about our situation has helped immensely, and that far from being "insensitive," my friends have proven themselves to be amazingly sensitive, gracious, and supportive.  [/quote]

I'm sorry but secondary infertility is different from not being able to have any children at all.  You really don't understand that?[/quote]

I do understand that.  But I'm really glad that the people in Resolve group aren't like you, because it's not about whose got it worse and winning the "my life sucks more than yours" game.  It's about the fact that everyone in that group has suffered loss in some form or another, and is trying to deal with it.  I'm not judging those people, and thankfully they don't judge me or suggest that I don't have the right to be there.  I simply said it's [u]hard for me to understand [/u]what is gained by cutting people off and making yourself increasingly isolated in your pain.  [/quote]

Everyone deals with pain differently.  Some people reach out.  Others turn inward and need time alone to process.  [/quote]

I think that's fine.  I still can see how it's hurtful to shut your friends out without simply saying, "You know, it's a tough time right now, and I just need some space for awhile."  Regardless of our pain, we are not absolved from considering how our actions make others feel.[/quote]

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