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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would this be a red flag to you:

Incredibly bad childhood (primary caregiver alcoholic, divorced 6 times):

Guy I'm dating says:

No connection to a single former step Fathers, no sadness
Found out about one divorce when the real estate agent showed up, no emotion
Moved for a new parental marriage after getting into a prestigious school (TJ) and couldn't attend, no emotion
Etc...

Accepts everything as "yeah, and...?" Won't even admit or acknowledge that those are painful memories or experiences. Denies any emotion. Claims totally over it and has moved on. Red flag?[/quote]

I'm a guy so certainly not an expert on the intricacies of female intuition and what constitutes a red flag from a ladies point of view but I can say this...from a man's perspective the main red flag I see is the OP's lingering doubt.  The fact that the OP steadfastly believes that the guy is dating is only "claiming" to be over these issues and moved on is disturbing.  The fact that for whatever reason the OP is insistent that he is surely hiding some emotions of pain or anger or anxiety related to his past and refusing to admit or acknowledge them is disturbing.  As a guy, even if the OP was right on the money about him repressing his feelings - which is totally his choice I mean different people handle things different ways - the fact that she questions his decision and his ability with regard to handling those things would be a red flag.   [/quote]

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