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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP Here. I'm not a troll. And I'm not a single parent. I'm a SAHM with two daughters and have a husband who travels a lot for work. My brother would come over a lot to give me a break with the girls so I could get my hair, nails, errands done and give my husband and I a date night. Once married, that went out the window. I thought them having kids would do babysitting swapping, but no interest. No more cards, lunches, just the relationship we had is not there anymore.[b] I'm not being selfish- I expect family to be there for each other.[/b] [/quote]

Yes, you are being selfish.  he was there for you.  Now he needs you to give him space.  Family should understand that.  So what, his wife doesn't want to do "babysitting swapping."  I don't blame her.  Perhaps she prefers a situation where the babysitter is clearly an employee, so she can be very specific in instructions.  Perhaps she disagrees with your style of parenting and would prefer someone else watch her child.

Family does not get to exploit each other.  Grown siblings don't get to make demands on each other.  If your relationship with your brother were truly one of friendship and not exploitation, you would be more concerned with whether or not he is happy now, not how much time he has for you.  [/quote]

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