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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please, please, please don't anyone choose this option. The surrogates in India are treated horribly, the medical care is terrible...it's a very unethical type of third party reproduction (doing surrogacy in India - not surrogacy in general). Please, please do *valid* research before considering this!![/quote]

I did a ton of valid research and discovered that, as in the US, there are good and bad actors in this process. Don't paint everyone with a broad brush. You appear ethnophobic.[/quote]

India is a country trying to change, but at its heart, no well off or self-respecting woman would ever be "allowed" to be a surrogate. Husbands own wives. Wives only have the husband's children. Before the husband she has a Father and brothers. Her whole family would disown her if she is a victim of rape, becomes pregnant out of wedlock, marries the wrong man, or has children of the wrong gender.

What part of the population is left undere that circumstance? Maybe untouchables (which India says no longer exist) or their equivalent of gypsies or a woman already disowned by her family. Really that is India.[/quote]

That is not what is happening. You are simply wrong.

But, your point is...? [/quote]

Sure I am. I only lived there and helped with an organization that takes in CHILDREN, girls, outcasted by their families for getting pregnant as a result of rape or incest. I know nothing of their modern society that won't acknowledge real issues. I made my point very clearly.

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No, actually, you did not. You said no "self-respecting" woman would consider surrogacy and said that only women who are shamed in some way would do this. You accepted a framing of women that I don't. It was... patronizing.

That said, your experience in India exposed you to a certain side of life there - a very dark side that has colored your world view. That does not mean you know a thing about surrogacy in India. Are you also an expert in heart surgery because you once entered a hospital?[/quote]

Please do tell your expertise then on Indian society and surrogacy. My view of India may sound patronizing, but it is like 1950s America. Women are objects, property. How would you like to hear the story, from an OB, of a woman diagnosed with advanced cervical cancer (because she was never allowed to go to routine GYN - actually in India that concept doesn't exist) and after explaining the treatment options the husband tells the doctor, "don't bother it's cheaper for me to get a new wife." No joke, true story.[/quote]

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