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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Listen, I hear your apology and understand your frustration.  I have seen it hard to get families to understand the gravity of the IEP situation and their child's needs.  I didn't know you didn't teach in this area.  However, since you don't work in this area you have no idea the kind of animal that the families living in the DC metro area are.  I will gladly work with Title 1 over families of means that hire lawyers and advocates and harass special ed staff for more services.  Now granted, some of these parents are wonderful and extremely involved (n a very good way) an write me wonderful thank you notes, it just takes one or two bad ones that will sour you.  I have had to sit in mediation and sit on trials because of some "involved" families along with the rest of my staff that took hours and days away from other students.  And it was not because we provided sub par services.
Usually my Title 1 families are LES.  Some are not though.  Since I now work directly in the home (as opposed to directly in the school) I am more familiar with their trials and tribulations.  And have had to call social workers and what not and do get frustrated with some of the things I see.  But do realized, the same folks who work in some of the pricier areas experience frustrations as well -  just a different type usually - and yes, social workers and what not have had to be called, just the same.

While I don' have a child with special needs I just work with them.  I can't imagine what it is like.  I truly admire those families that are involved, interested and work with the school system, and even question the school system in order to get the best for their child.  I have seen that in both families of means as well as title 1.[/quote]

You do not get it till you live it.  It is very very different when it is your child.  You do not have the fears of not knowing if your child will be ok as an adult.  You do not have the worries of how to pay for services.  You do not have the huge pay cut from having to leave your inflexible job as your child comes first.  While others are on play dates, you are going from therapy session to therapy session.  You spend hours on the phone with insurance.  You have to make choices of therapy and basic necessities.   You go without so your child can get those therapies.  Your friends talk about their new coach bag and you happily use a walmart bag.   You friends go on vacation.   You go to speech, ot, pt and aba therapy.   You have no idea just going into a home for a few hours what life is really like.  I love my child and I would and will do everything I can.  He is a blessing and my heart.  I have no regrets except for every time I have to deal with someone like you.  You can help, support and care but until you have been there and done that, drop the arrogance.

These families are overwhelmed and are probably just trying to feed their kids every day.  Support them instead of criticizing.  You very easily could have a special needs child and may be in their shoes one day.  [/quote]

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