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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is good to manage expectations in advance.  However, some disappointment is actually good for kids' development.  http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/18/magazine/what-if-the-secret-to-success-is-failure.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

I agree that the age of the student makes a big difference.  For a 9th grade applicant with good scores but grades that lag behind (ye old "red flag" on effort), it can spark a conversation about how to really work for what you want.  For the same age group with good grades but not good standardized scores, it can also spark a conversation about "hey, now you know what you'll need to work on" in terms of practicing for later standardized tests.[/quote]

Terrible idea.  Essentially telling the child he didn't get in because he didn't work hard enough or because he's bright enough (at least thats the message he'll hear).   "Sorry kid, you just weren't good enough."  Its not even true, there are kids with so so grades or scores who get in everywhere.  There's just a lot randomness to the process and I don't see how making it personal helps.[/quote]

Definitely try to hide all bad facts from your child, and particularly make sure to shield him from any sense that if he works harder he is more likely to achieve success.  It will make your child totally awesome and resilient!

You must be a parenting specialist.   :twisted: [/quote]

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