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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry. This happened with my uncle and my grandma. We did everything we could, but nothing happened to him.

It took me a long time to get over it.

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OP here: I am so sorry. It is awful and very painful.

After the fact, I could see the clues, see the meanings that I overlooked because I refused to believe. He even confessed, but I did not understand what he was talking about at the time, or I thought he was just venting or really did not mean it or something. He is happy he put this burden on me -- that was part of the plan -- he wanted to relive his burden and check out if he would get caught. Yes, he is an evil person. But very smart and devious. Talking to him puts a stain on the soul.[/quote]

PP here.

You can only do what you can do in this situation:

1. You can tell the police what your brother said. He will lie to them, but at least you told the police and aren't a participant in covering up his crime. Don't except much, but you did your part.
Did this : it was very painful.

2. You can cut off your brother. Tell him why. Have not spoken to the brother, but he has trashed me to everyone who will listen.

3. You can tell other family members. They may or may not believe you. You will be accused of being dramatic and you may be cut off from family, but you will not be participating in the cover-up. The family is split half and half.

4. You can contest the will. Murderers can't enforce a will. You can testify to your brother's confession in court. The judge/jury may or may not believe you, but you will have said your piece.
I said my piece. Not interested in that legal headache. He stole most of the estate already.

I did 1-3, but not 4.  There was no estate to speak of in my case.

For the PPs who are ragging on you  about not doing more sooner: I repeatedly contacted elder abuse before her death, but my grandmother lied to them about what was going on. She was very angry with me for contacting the police. She didn't want them involved in her family business. Don't count on being able to protect elders from abuse; sometimes they won't protect themselves.  [/quote][/quote]

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