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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not clear to me if  MIL is inviting you and you stay for free or everyone is paying for the vacation home.  If you are there as a guest of your MIL, I think it is tough to advocate for the bigger room.  To some extent it is either first come, first serve or looking for the host to make a logistical/somewhat equitable decision on where the guests stay.

As someone mentioned you can shorten your time I.e. 3 days instead of a week, stay someplace else the whole time, stay someplace else part of the time ...maybe on the back end so if there isn't enough space by day 2 you can stay at the hotel, don't go every year...

If you are feeling bold you can mention how thankful you are that MIL has been inviting your family but now that the kids are growing up you all can't fit in the small room so you are going to get a hotel nearby this year and stop by the house in the morning.  Unless MIL offers to change the sleeping arrangements, what can she say? Not to say she hasn't realized this is happening but how can she insist you stay at the house with a straight face knowing people will be sleeping in the hallway and it isn't a case of everyone sleeping in the hallways/floors.[/quote]

I like this, OP!

FWIW, MIL pays.  She will not take money from anyone, we have tried.  She is "proud" to do it.  Is that the right word?

MIL is the "host", and insists on being the host, but she refuses to count how many are actually in the family?  Who does this?

We know people with beach houses that are nicer and closer, so we have every reason not to go.  DH somehow feels compelled to hang onto he abuse???  Like an enabler???  I am at a loss, since he will not work with therapists.  His family refuses to talk about or acknowledge the elephants (plural) in the room.  You simply do NOT discuss or acknowledge the obvious issues in DH's family.  It is NOT done.  My family is the opposite, so to sit back and watch the BS is pretty unbelievable.

The guests leave after one night (they don't realize until bedtime that they are sleeping in the hallway), so you would THINK most people would take the hint.  I think that is part of MIL's MO, and always has been:  "If we don't acknowledge what everyone sees, it must not exist"??!!  Yeah, right - keep telling yourself that!  [/quote]

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