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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When adopting, it's best to nurture attachment relationships, which is why a nanny would be best emotionallly for the child, and a nanny-share would be best financially for you while still coming as close to the emotional needs as possible. Please keep in mind this baby will be going through a trauma, and trauma can alter brain chemistry.[/quote]

Great point. Maybe we'll look at finding a way to afford a nanny or nanny share for the first year (particularly as I work from home.. but I have set hours) so I can spend some time w/kid during the day.[/quote]

Another point of view on this subject is that you want to foster attachment with your family, not with anyone and everyone.  Some adoption professionals counsel you away from nannys and into daycares where there is more than one provider so that the primary attachment does not become to the nanny.  [/quote]

Wow, that sounds like awful advice! The best care for any child fosters attachment with stable caregivers. I would want to see that attachment at a daycare or with a nanny. It seems especially important for an adopted kid to have secure attachments to all caregivers.[/quote]

Nope, it's a legitimate way of dealing with attachment. [/quote]

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