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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]my mom has health anxiety and it spills into every conversation I have ever had with her in the last 10 years. If you gently suggest that she might have some anxiety (hoping to encourage her to get some help) she turns into a raging defensive creature so I keep my mouth shut and just nod my head and listen.[/quote]

Are you my sibling?  This is so my mom.  She has had some concerning but not life-threatening medical issues/scares over the past year, and even though everything is OK now, she is clearly not over it.  When I was in the hospital after my c-section last month, all she could talk about was her experience, her time in the hospital (ONE NIGHT, might I add), etc.  If a nurse came in to give me a med, my mom would tell the nurse all about how she tried that one but it made her sick, or didn't work, or whatever.  If anyone else acted this way, I would just assume s/he was a self-centered attention-seeker type, but actually my mom is not like that at all.  I think she has an amazing amount of unchecked anxiety and it has affected her so deeply that she is almost perseverating on it.

LIke your mom, there is NO talking to her about it.  If I try, she just lashes out at me.  (THis is her typical response to being criticized in any way, unfortunately.)  It's really sad b/c I do think it is impacting her life, and it's certainly impacting our relationship, but I know she will never seek therapy or take meds or do anything to make it better.  I don't understand why but that's who she is.   [/quote]

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