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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems weird to me that people assume their ex (of either gender I suppose) would change their approach to wanting to pay for college due to the divorce.  The divorce certainly diminishes the household resources so maybe there's just less money available to contribute but that could happen if they stayed married and one parent lost their job.  Or is it the remarriage thing and one choosing to devote their financial resources to the new family to the exclusion of the old?  Just doesn't make sense to me.[/quote]

I'm not sure where you got that this is a change.

OP here, my ex has always said he would pay for college, but now that he has a legal document he doesn't want to. Which tells me, he doesn't want to pay for college but keeps up the charade to look like a good Father to other people. [/quote]

I meant the comment more generally as I was having a hard time keeping track of the different posters.  But, since you mention it, your situation seems odd to me.  I mean, you're married for X number of years during which presumably you discussed whether the two of you would pay for college so I assume if you had stayed married household resources would be used to pay for college.  I just don't understand why the divorce would change that one way or the other except to some degree to reflect a reduction in resources.  It's really an open-ended question as to why someone would decide after the divorce that they don't want to pay for college and also why someone would, assuming the original plan in the marriage that the kids would be on their own for college, decide to change things.[/quote]

For me, the OP, the exact thing you are pointing out is why in getting divorced. Imagine, on a life-scale, living with someone who constantly lies and promises, then turns around and breaks those promises. A walking contradiction. So I'm not surprised he's trying to convince me that he will help for college, let's just not put it in writing. I'm wise to his ways at this point.[/quote]

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