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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Generally schools don't just take kids' word for it that they are independent.  (Lower cost or state schools may; expensive private schools don't.)  Otherwise everyone would claim to be independent to get more financial aid from the school.  Students often have to show legal proof that a parent is not contributing, letters from clergy or others, or something.

It was a huge hassle for me at the time - my dad made much more than my mom.  He claimed he would help, but I knew that would never, ever happen and he would never have signed something saying he wouldn't be contributing.  My financial aid package for nicer private schools always included a parental contribution that was utterly unrealistic.

(I went to a state school on a full ride, so no harm done.)[/quote]

Question, do you resent your Father for not contributing? [/quote]

I have managed to control my resentment, but maybe because I didn't end up with any undergraduate debt because of my scholarships.  I was proud of working my way through, studying abroad multiple times, being summa cum laude, etc.  And I don't come from more typical DCUM stock - I wasn't always surrounded by people with relatively high incomes like a lot of metro DC kids are.

I am resentful a bit now that I learned that my dad and his wife paid tuition and rent for my older stepsister (40-ish) when she decided to go back to school after dropping out in her early 20s.  My dad said it was because she has kids she couldn't really support (post-divorce) without better job prospects.  Cry me a river!

Funnily enough, I used to look down on people whose parents paid for everything (college, grad school, weddings, downpayments).  I have more friends now that come from that kind of background, and in general I would say they ended up pretty grounded, normal, hardworking, etc.  It didn't ruin them, and they don't have the stress I have of paying several hundred dollars a month for grad school loans or extra mortgage because I had to put down $0 on my little fixer-upper.[/quote]

I'm sorry to hear that PP. I'm trying to do my best for my child, but I know there will probably be resentment like yours no matter what happens.[/quote]

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