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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has nothing to do with being gay. I think I'd know if I was attracted to women. I'm not.  And I don't feel guilt or fear about sex.

I do have a very strong fear or rejection. Maybe I make friends easily because I don't fear that my friendship will ever be rejected. But this is what puzzles me. I make friends SO EASILY, I have ever since pre-school, and I'm attracted to people in a friendly way all the time.

I haven't really felt attracted to anyone like that. I had one big crush as a teenager. In college, I liked nobody. During my Masters, I liked nobody. At work, I like nobody.

I'll randomly see a man I find attractive on the street or on the subway and I'll think, "Ooh, he's cute," but I don't ever feel the "I'd date him" attraction - maybe because for me, "I'd date him" means "I'll consider him as a marriage prospect". I don't have the same casual,  no-future-plans approach to dating that most people do, likely due to my cultural background.

It's just frustrating. I feel like I am alone in a world where all other women are falling in love.[/quote]

The problem is you are basing everything on a guy's looks and whether you find him sexually attractive. That's important, but there's a lot more to a relationship than that! Get on a dating website and get to know some guys as people, potential life partners, beyond just whether they are cute. My husband is a good-looking man but that wasn't what attracted me to him. It was his mind and personality. I fell in love with him because of who he is, not what he looks like. And I did not sleep with him until I felt this love.[/quote]

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