Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 15:20     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:I'm puzzled that you masturbate daily but haven't ever been sexually attracted to a man. Otherwise I would wonder if you were asexual. What do you think about when you masturbate?


I guess the mental picture (either chatrooms, porn, erotic fiction, whatever gets her going) she can generate exceeds anything an actual BF with actual problems could ever do for her.

Think of the song ... "(Do You Wanna Date My) Avatar".

Anonymous wrote:Try an Arab American man instead of someone out of your race and background. What you are implicitly stating as a problem (lack of physical hook ups) may be regarded as something to be treasured.

I am an Asian woman and had the same problem. There was no one who was worth losing my heart over. And I did not want to have sex with someone I did not have strong feelings for me.

Some of the guys who could have been good sexual partners were in too much of a rush to get me into bed. They had set up a limit of 4 or 5 dates by which I had to be in bed with them. So those fizzled out as well.

I eventually met and married the perfect man and he appreciated the fact that my virginity meant something special. I also had/have a strong libido and we are well matched sexually as well.


Arab-American men are just as liable to regard her as another white slut.

Thing is with marrying these 'waiting until marriage/something really long-term' is that for every woman like you that has a strong libido (I'll take you on face value and assume you have sex 3-4x a week or more) there's other women that don't really like sex all that much. I assume you have kids and haven't turned into Tiger Mom.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 14:04     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
The OP is obviously ugly as hell.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 13:37     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Why are people offering advice to this simple-minded twit. She's a loser and this thread is for the discussion of relationships - not for the venting of dumb asses who are too ignorant and ugly to be in a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 10:36     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:This has nothing to do with being gay. I think I'd know if I was attracted to women. I'm not. And I don't feel guilt or fear about sex.

I do have a very strong fear or rejection. Maybe I make friends easily because I don't fear that my friendship will ever be rejected. But this is what puzzles me. I make friends SO EASILY, I have ever since pre-school, and I'm attracted to people in a friendly way all the time.

I haven't really felt attracted to anyone like that. I had one big crush as a teenager. In college, I liked nobody. During my Masters, I liked nobody. At work, I like nobody.

I'll randomly see a man I find attractive on the street or on the subway and I'll think, "Ooh, he's cute," but I don't ever feel the "I'd date him" attraction - maybe because for me, "I'd date him" means "I'll consider him as a marriage prospect". I don't have the same casual, no-future-plans approach to dating that most people do, likely due to my cultural background.

It's just frustrating. I feel like I am alone in a world where all other women are falling in love.


The problem is you are basing everything on a guy's looks and whether you find him sexually attractive. That's important, but there's a lot more to a relationship than that! Get on a dating website and get to know some guys as people, potential life partners, beyond just whether they are cute. My husband is a good-looking man but that wasn't what attracted me to him. It was his mind and personality. I fell in love with him because of who he is, not what he looks like. And I did not sleep with him until I felt this love.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 10:08     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
I'm puzzled that you masturbate daily but haven't ever been sexually attracted to a man. Otherwise I would wonder if you were asexual. What do you think about when you masturbate?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2013 09:41     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
"Friend chemistry" means you're ugly no one wants to wake up and see your mug every morning for the next 40 years.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 17:41     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Ron is just having a good laugh, knowing the Op isn't interested. That was funny as hell though!

Op, I think you should practice flirting with easy marks. Guys you are not interested in whom are unlikely to reject you, just for practice. Do you have any friends who could set you up on a blind date?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 17:28     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps an experienced older gentleman could help you learn about your body, kindle those feelings that are dormant, but not dead. In a safe, caring relationship. Not a commitment. An education.

Ron3274 at yahoo.com


I just threw up in my mouth. Thanks Ron. If that's what you meant by kindling those "feelings that are dormant, but not dead", then good job.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 17:06     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:Perhaps an experienced older gentleman could help you learn about your body, kindle those feelings that are dormant, but not dead. In a safe, caring relationship. Not a commitment. An education.

Ron3274 at yahoo.com


This isn't Craigslist...
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 17:00     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
Perhaps an experienced older gentleman could help you learn about your body, kindle those feelings that are dormant, but not dead. In a safe, caring relationship. Not a commitment. An education.

Ron3274 at yahoo.com
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 17:00     Subject: 32 and never had a BF or relationship
OP needs to get out the mirror and go get a life.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 16:47     Subject: Re:32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are most likely ugly. Hate to say it. Men say, "you are girlfriend material," when you are nice, sweet, but ugly. Some people just aren't fuckable and you may be one of them.


You're an ass!


But I'm fuckable


Doubtful. You're probably ugly & angry.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 16:08     Subject: Re:32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You are most likely ugly. Hate to say it. Men say, "you are girlfriend material," when you are nice, sweet, but ugly. Some people just aren't fuckable and you may be one of them.


You're an ass!


But I'm fuckable
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 16:06     Subject: Re:32 and never had a BF or relationship
Anonymous wrote:You are most likely ugly. Hate to say it. Men say, "you are girlfriend material," when you are nice, sweet, but ugly. Some people just aren't fuckable and you may be one of them.


You're an ass!
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 16:04     Subject: Re:32 and never had a BF or relationship
You are most likely ugly. Hate to say it. Men say, "you are girlfriend material," when you are nice, sweet, but ugly. Some people just aren't fuckable and you may be one of them.