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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Helpful but not necessary.  I think it is far more important to select the best possible caregiver and if that person doesn't know your children well, that's OK.  In our case, our options also are limited (ok, we have lots of siblings, but not lots of options).  I have a very near and dear friend who would make the best, most amazing guardian for our children.  She is loving and kind.  She sees our kids once a year, but certainly doesn't know them nearly as well as aunts/uncles, but that is OK with me.  We do have a family member as the first guardian and my friend is our back-up, but I have been thinking about switching to my friend.

Hope that helps.[/quote]

But if your kids don't know her, and she doesn't know them, her ability to care for them the way you would like is diminished.[/quote]

In what way? 
If the person is financially secure, loving and open to raising the child. [/quote]

Sure. So pick a parenting expert out of a book and ship them off!  You really think that an existing relationship with your kids is not essential to their being able to cope with helping your children through the huge trauma of losing you?  That a virtual stranger can relate better to them than someone they love who loves them back? Are you planning to give everyone an instruction manual that describes how each one tends to react to every situation?  Describes personality type to make sure they all can learn to get along?  Bizarrely short-sighted.

Also, poor planning on your part to focus on financial stability of the guardian.  My kids would be the beneficiaries of several million dollars of life insurance.  Because of the large amounts involved, we have a financial trustee to advise and approve outlays for the kids' benefits. [/quote]

No body will be able to replace mom + dad. No one you choose will know the exact right thing to do in any given situation, so I'm not relating to your examples. [/quote]

Then I feel sorry for your children.  You clearly are less concerned with their emotional well-being than you are with their physical care.  That's a shame.  [/quote]

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