Reply to Dreading family dinner

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Dreading family dinner"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about actually sitting them both down and telling them how hurtful they have been to you? Tell them how you feel about their behavior. It may take a while for them to stop, but every time they say something please call them on it. [/quote]

This is bullshit. They know exactly what they're doing. The problem is not that no one has gotten around to spelling out how inappropriate and nasty this behavior is. [/quote]

OP here, I have spoken to them a gazillion times about this.  They just can't help themselves. I think very early in our family two camps formed, my dad and I, and my mom and sisters. I think because I was in the " other" camp they have very little in common with me so the only thing they can say to me is something negative. It's either talking about my weight or the weather and my weight is more entertaining to them. Whenever I ask them to shut up or stop being hurtful they say something like: You were always a very defensive child or grow thicker skin or if not your family, who else will tell you the truth.  My oldest sister made me cover my arms and shoulders in her wedding pictures, because she felt I was too fat compared to the other bridesmaids. When I brought this up with her she said I did not love her enough to lose the excess weight for her wedding. My concern is that if I marry again and have kids, especially daughters, they will be exposed to the same toxicity. I do not want my children end up with my body issues. I'd hate to be estranged from my mom but it may be the only thing that will get through to her.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics