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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Families are different. My spouse's family calls and sends cards for every conceivable occasion. They go out to nice meals to celebrate them . . . and then get into shouting matches with one another at those meals. My family never calls or sends cards, and gets together far less often . . . but thngs are calm and there's no drama when they get together.

Your feelings are valid, but you need to understand that there's not something "wrong" with your in-laws. They just do things differently than you.

It probably did not even occur to them to call for a 1st birthday because your child will not understand what is happening or remember it later. It doesn't reflect on how much they care about your child or how much they care about you.

Out of curiosity, did your MIL wish you happy mother's day this year? My MIL and my mother both forgot to do that the first year after my son was born. I think it takes grandparents a while to figure out what their role is.[/quote]

Why in the world would either your mother or your mother in law wish you happy Mother's Day??  You are not their mother!  What is wrong with you people?[/quote]
Because she is a mother. That's why it is called "Mother's Day" not "YOUR Mother's Day". They sell Mother's Day cards for Aunts, Sisters, etc. none of which would be YOUR mother.[/quote]

You are crazy and bound to be disappointed often.[/quote]
How am I crazy? You can go in any CVS and find these cards. I did not make it up.
Neither did I say I expected to get a card. I do not care!
I am terrible about these things, a procrastinator.
However my mom AND MIL are good about sending them and I get cards from both.
It's nice, but not an obligation.[/quote]

There is a small market for cards acknowledging someone other than your own mother on Mother's Day because some POS husbands can't be bothered to raise a finger on behalf of his kids, or a woman may be "like a mom" to a sibling or niece, etc.  that doesn't mean that we all need to run out and start buying up cards for aunts, sisters, daughters, etc. who are being appropriately feted by their children and partners.  Hallmark would love it if you did, but just because they sell a card doesn't mean you need to buy it.[/quote]

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