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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This might be the end of the road in my 20 year marriage.  I am so angry with my husband I could scream.

He does the bare minimum in our marriage.  No date nights, no one on one time together, no initiative to help around the house, even basic safety issues. If I ask him to help me with something, he balks and will sulk like a child.  I work very part time and regret that I do not have my own stash of cash to just hire someone and get this stuff done.  I'm not at all materialistic, but I do like my home to be clean, attractive and have everything work.  Oh, I also reduced my hours to support his worldwide travel.  Daycare and babysitting was too expensive and I was paying out about what I made.  He's the breadwinner.

So, I'm trapped.  I'm sick of crying, screaming,  even tried calming discussing how I need more of his help.  He works and I do absolutely everything else...shopping, organizing, cleaning, driving, laundry, cooking...and I'm sick of it.

Tempted to go totally passive aggressive and simply stop doing everything...maybe if he doesn't have clean clothes, lightbulbs,  a clean house and food he'll care?  how do I crawl out of this hole?

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Are you a task master? Do you both tell him what to do and how to do it? Do you second-guess him constantly? It's very interesting that you said you "lost control" in the marriage -- if you've been trying to control him for the last 20 years, it doesn't surprise me in the least that date nights dried up, etc.[/quote]

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