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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I tend to be someone who thinks you make effort to maintain family relationships.  That said, two things really stand out from your posts.

1.  Your parents refuse to acknowledge, let alone apologize for their abuse.

2.  Your siblings have had to cut your parents off from their own children due to your parents' emotional manipulation of their grandchildren.

Given those two factors, I don't see any net benefit to trying to reestablish a relationship.  Quite the contrary.  It sounds like your parents are still capable of hurting children.  Continue to protect your children from them.  It doesn't sound like they are missing out on anything good.

When they're older, you can fill them in on your family history and why you made the decisions that you did.  I am getting some of that history now from my mother, and it's valuable for the insight it provides into her and her life but I didn't need it when I was a kid.[/quote]

I didn't read all the replies but all including this one sounded exactly right.
Just want to add something small…they want to see you again, which is the issue these insightful PPs are focusing on and I couldn't say it better.  But there is this other weirdness.  They want to see you for CHRISTMAS? what???????

Just saying, if you were considering seeing them again (and personally I hope you don't, and your kids don't need this experience of their manipulative GPs in their lives) but if you were to go ahead, the emotionally laden time of Christmas is not the time to do it.  [/quote]

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