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[quote=Anonymous]re "I want her to know she's acting like a bully…"

Listen to 18:00 above and the comical shampoo dialog by PP on page 1 and a few more above.

Wanting her to know ANYTHING is playing into it.  Stop engaging this behavior.  Stop trying to teach her anything--you want to teach her about yourself, who you are, where you are coming from--just stop.  She is invested in NOT seeing you or your DD or the peanut allergy or the anxiety the way you want her to see it.  For some sick reason, for her to see it the way you see it, and give it the gravity you give it, is for you to WIN--and she doesn't want that, so she won't do it.  Understanding and agreement, for greater intimacy between you is YOUR goal, not hers.  One-upping and winning is her goal, at the expense of the closeness of your relationship.

If you realize this, and adapt to it, you will be much calmer around her.  Side-benefit.  As a PP said, you will have to mourn the loss of your ideal to be closer to her.[/quote]

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