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[quote=Anonymous]My DH was the third boy in his family, followed by a baby girl.  There are only 2 pictures we have of him younger than 5, but a whole album of his sister.  One older brother was a gifted musician (now professional) who got all the family's focus and attention.  The second son was a gifted athlete.  When my DH wanted to do boy scouts, there wasn't time because of music practices and sports games and yes, even girl scouts for his younger sister.  He was literally the afterthought in every way. He was sexually abused and didn't feel like he could tell anyone because no one paid attention to him.  He started smoking pot in middle school and no one noticed.

His brighter came to stay with us last year and confided in me that he's mad that my DH blew off family so much until I came on the scene, talking about how They all had such a great childhood and DH doesn't appreciate it.   He was like, "We all had music lessons, sports, our parents went to all of our events" blah blah, and I was like, um, "Phil" didnt get music lessons.  (He didn't?) He didn't get to be in any sports teams, go to camp, join Boy Scouts, etc.  his brother was flummoxed.  "But I'm sure we went to Phil's stuff...let me see...um..." Yeah, no.  Of course I don't say anything about the sexual abuse, I just said, "You had a vet different childhood from your brother's. It sounds like yours was happy, but even though you lived in the same house, you didn't have identical memories."

Could be some of that going on.  You don't need to take it personally.[/quote]

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