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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I felt my DH was there for the most part.  But wanted me to rely on others to take me to chemo and radiation.  He went to my surgeries and one chemo and one radiation session.  He would happily accept meals.  We had two young children at the time.  He sent for my parents, who I always hate asking them for anything.  Whatever friends I had that were willing to come came.  I felt like I was pretty much orchestrating everything.   He took maybe 4 days off for the whole thing even though he has tons of leave. He did help on the really important decisions.  Was I expecting too much to have more hand holding?[/quote]

I think it really varies by person.  If you wanted more "hand holding" I think you should have told him that.

I was recently diagnosed with cancer (with 3 young children) and did not want a lot of hand holding.  I did not have chemo so maybe I would have felt differently if I did but other than driving me to and from two surgeries and helping me the few days after each surgery when I was heavily medicated, I did not want help from my DH or anyone. No coming to doctor appointments; scheduled radiation for 7 AM so I could still walk my kids to school and didn't mention it to friends or neighbors.  Maybe I am somewhat in denial but tried to keep everything the same as before.

Everyone reacts differently and I don't think you were expecting too much if that's what you needed.  Good-luck.[/quote]

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