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[quote=Anonymous]Perhaps agree to have a weekly/monthly (whatever works for you guys) meeting where you go over the past week's/month's budget and plan the next week's/month's/etc budget. I can understand getting questioned out of the blue, at work, can feel hostile. I also recognize that a lot of wasteful spending happens because of "small" habits, and just because there's "enough" money doesn't mean everyone's on board with what-feels-like wasteful spending. Having a specific time set aside can allow him to feel like he understands where the money's going and it's not being flushed down the toilet, and can allow you to deal with the issues without feeling like you're being attacked.

My husband spends a silly amount of money on drinks from the convenience store, and I went round and round with him before he explained that he uses it as a reason to take a break from work and if he carries a water bottle and refills it he doesn't feel like he can take the 5 minute walk to & from the convenience store, which he values to get some breathing space and a moment to think outside the office. With that explanation, a $2 bottle of water a couple of times a day doesn't strike me as unacceptable (even if I'd still rather he get his break without spending the money). Even though we can afford $4/day on water it doesn't mean I want to spend it if we don't have to. I don't think "we can afford it" is all the justification necessary for spending. I can afford to throw a buck a day into the river and watch it float away. If I were to do that I would understand my husband wanting to know why.[/quote]

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