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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, at this point I do not want a divorce.  I have just had to emotionally disengage from her to protect my sanity.  No use getting sucked into her great black hole of neediness.  I expect her to stand on her own two feet, take responsibility  for herself and her feelings and stop blaming everyone else for his unhappiness.  In a way, it is how my mother had to deal with my alcoholic father.  A strong dose of tough love and not putting up with the BS.

If DW truly seeks therapy and wants to change, I am there to support her.  I am not there to continue to enable her bad, self destructive behaviors.  
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From what you project in this thread, you're removed and deeply contemptuous of your wife.  You haven't mentioned a single positive quality nor revealed an ounce of compassion for her.  I can't imagine that it doesn't destroy her self esteem and her sense of being loved, especially if you've allied yourself with your daughter.  Of course, enabling isn't healthy.  But being cold and callous isn't either.  You sound like you're more callous than lovingly detached.

Sure she needs therapy, but you sound like you do, too.  Couples therapy as well.  Something is not right here - and it's not just her problems (or BS as you put it).  [/quote]

Yes I agree with this assessment. Whatever negative behaviors she may indulge herself in, you can't be doing her (or your daughter) any favors by being so obviously scornful and dismissive of her. You do seriously sound like you despise her. For both your sakes, but primarily for your daughter, you need to separate. Can you imagine what it is like to grow up as a young girl who knows that her father finds her mother repulsive?[/quote]

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