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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks so much to all of you for your opinions and your insights. I am incredibly sad that my BIL has not gotten help; the poster who said this begins 17-24 was spot on. When I let DH his brother was a sweet geeky awkward young teen. I was taken by how kind he was to me, honestly, and I always liked him. Also, he is Dhs only brother (he has sisters, too) so I always expected they would have a relationship. Since graduating from HS every year he has gotten more and more lost and distant. DH has tried to step in, as ILs at least in the beginning kepy saying it was a learning disability that was the reason he was getting more and more frustrated and angry. That may be true but my perspective was that they were trying to force college on him when e woul have rather been doing something else. I thought he would have made an awesome tattoo artist for example, his art is so precise. Anyway, I think the years jeered intervention could have helped went by with them focusing on the college thing--he never finished anyway--I suggested he learn a trade but FIL is a phd and I think that was not well received. To the issue of whether he could be violent: I'd like to think no, but I cannot say for sure. I pray to God not. He's become fundamentalist in his thinking and behavior, which is intimidating to me. The more I am writing this and thinking about your responses the more I am convinced this is untreated mental illness. I am so saddened too that the stigma may have keep him from help. When I hear that someone has gotten help for themselves or a family member my first traction to this is always respect that they had the strength and the ability to make that happen. Thank you all. I am going to talk to DH about what you have offered in terms of insight and advice and hopefully we can come up with something that we can feel ok with.[/quote]

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