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[quote=Anonymous]Good God You Bitches! Come on!

Its as if you just assume that the therapist has it right. A bad assumption.

We do not know the pattern and how it started. If he is nitpicking at her and calling her fat, what makes ALL of you so far ASSUME that this is because it is HER fault? Why assme she started the lack of appreciation?

Also, two times divorced and the same complaints of previous wives? HELLO? Noone takes note.

OP: Your task IS hard. I would be more interested in knowing the HISTORY of your relationship. IN a nutshell: was he once not like this? Did it begin with the child? What was the dynamic in the approximately three years before the child? That is what a good therapist would be looking at. You can just start in the present and fix things. Its a good plave to start to STABILIZE things which is probably what the therapist is trying to achieve.

If the goal is to make life with DH more pleasant NOW then you BOTH need to be nicer to each other. Finding that difficult and exploring why, that will take some time but that will also get to the real problem.

Lets get this thread onto a helpful and realistic track. It is the posters who are being all or nothing. OP is just in a shitty place, which feels like all or nothing. But if you read between the lines you can see its more complicated.[/quote]

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