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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you're married, flirting with someone other than your spouse isn't harmless or good clean fun. It's either manipulative or it's destructive. Flirting differs from merely being friendly inasmuch as it has an underlying sexual component.

If you don't intend to have sex with the other person, flirting is manipulative -- you are using your sexuality to get something you want; whether it's attention or something more tangible. If you do intend to have sex with someone, obviously that's a betrayal.[/quote]

My DW is friendly with a single male coworker and the several times I've seen them together, they do not appear " flirty". However, He is always bringing her books to read (best sellers; nothing inappropriate).  i don't know why, [b]but that bothers me[/b].  Is that flirty?[/quote]

If it bothers you, talk it over with your spouse.  For example, if you knew the coworker was gay, would that change your perception?  Your wife isn't hiding the books so she must not think he is flirting with her.  Perhaps they are just exchanging books they bought and read instead of donating the books to the library.  Only your wife knows why he would be giving her books and she probably doesn't know it bothers you.

Now if she doesn't know why the coworker is giving her books, that might be a signal he might be trying to get her attention but he is so far off her radar she doesn't pick up on it.  Having a discussion with her might clue her in. [/quote]

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