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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read this with tears in my eyes because our son is not the favorite on either side.  It is so hard to have to answer him when he asks when his grandparents are coming to visit.  My parents have cancelled 3 trips in a row to see us because of something that has come up with my brother's family twice and my dad's job once.  When they do visit, I am not exagerrrating when I say, my father takes no interest whatever in our son and constantly, constantly talks about my brother's two kids and compares them non-stop to our's.  Every single conversation leads back to them.

I want my son to know his grandparents.  But what do you do when they don't seem to care if they see him?  I can't keep making the effort and continue to have my son disappointed.  I can let go of my hurt feelings, but how do I explain it to my son that they haven't come to visit?  [/quote]

I don't tell my kids Grandma and Grandpa are visiting until they are within walking distance.  Too many weird things (car breaks down on the turnpike, AAA can't hear them on the cell phone to even get assistance, all kinds of crazy crap).

I suggest pulling your dad aside and saying that Timmy has a hard time always being compared to Jimmy and Joe.  I'm sure your dad isn't doing it to be malicious but if there is something your dad and son have in common, next time they visit have them go to the train museum together or something like that.  For my dad, it's fishing and he loves to take the kids to the pier.  He never fishes the same way as when he is on his own but he loves teaching them.[/quote]

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